Where will YOU be in 5 years...

I've been thinking a lot lately about life...where I am...where I thought I would be by now...and where I want to be.  I realize that life isn't always going to take you where you thought it would, when it should, when you want it, but once you find your purpose I truly believe you will get there.  

I always loved playing the 'Where do you see yourself in 5 years?'  Had you asked me that same question 5 years ago....here's what my response would be:

1.  Married to Stefan
2.  A kid or 2 
3.  Working happily
4.  Living in a house
5.  Happy

Here's where I am today:

1.  Married to Stefan
2.  No Kids...2 cats
3.  Working...sometimes happily
4.  Renting a home in North Carolina
5.  Happy...mostly

I would say that I didn't fall to far from where I thought, and for sure the most important is number 1...he is my number 1.  Due to some unforeseen circumstances a number of my responses have changed...and that's not necessarily a bad thing.  Some days I get sad that we don't have children yet, or that we don't own a home...but I understand why and I know that when I have fully discovered my purpose in this life the rest will come to be.  

For now, I will live life for my Lord and Savior and I know that I will be blessed in life with the things that I need, when the timing is right and when I've fulfilled my life's purpose.  

So where will I be 5 years from now?  I don't know...and I'm starting to become okay with that.

Uninspired

It's been a while and I know that.  I've tried to post once a week, but as always, life gets in the way.  Not only does time slip away during a work week, I've found myself to be uninspired.  I'm sure there are plenty of things that I can write about, snow, my work day, people/situations I've encountered but to be honest nothing shouts importance or significance.  

Many does are a struggle, no I don't want sympathy, I'm just writing the truth.  There are many times during the day I feel down and I just want to be left alone, curl up in bed and sleep.  I don't want to feel this way and in fact I'm sick of feeling this way.  I want to wake up every day and feel happy and ready for the day that awaits...but most days that doesn't happen.  When it does I tell myself, you should feel like this every day, life is good, blah blah blah.  I'm not very persuasive. 

I just need to try harder, appreciate the little things in life that are around me, and realize that we are not promised tomorrow...I will find something that inspires me and run with it...until then, here's to inspiration and no negativity.

Keeping the Romance Alive

Last weekend I spent time in New York visiting with family and friends.  While the time I spent there was incredible, I definitely missed my husband.  I was very excited to get home and see him.  After coming home later in the evening we began the work week.  During the week we only have about 2 hours of time that we spend together...and that all depends on whether or not I fall asleep early.  I decided that because we had a number of days a part we needed a date night...Stefan agreed.

Saturday we decided we would go on a mini date.  We went bowling, and not that it matters but, I won!  After dinner we went to dinner and enjoyed a nice meal and drink together.  Once we came home we watched TV on our own and then called it a night.  

While to most this may not sound like anything special, I think it made my weekend a thousand times better.  It's really important to keep the romance in a relationship alive no matter how new or old the relationship is.  There still needs to be a sense of excitement even if that means a date night, or watching a movie with popcorn.  No matter how simple the activity or time spent is it is necessary to have moments that make you feel like you are 'a kid again'.  Everyone wants to feel special and know that they still reign supreme in their significant others eyes.  When this feeling is lost, it is hard to regain.  So make sure to keep the spark alive and have the one you love feel special each and every day.

Meditation

Yesterday I went to a mindful meditation class.  It was my first time doing any sort of meditation and I have to say it was quite an amazing experience.  I cannot recall the last time my head was so clear.  I was in a state that focused on me, my body, heart and soul.  I cannot wait to do it again, it was a half hour that freed my mind and relaxed my body.

Holding Grudges

Over the holiday season, my sister told me that she reached out to her husbands old friends wife to see how they were doing and to get his hold friends phone number.  My sister had said that her husband had been talking about the good 'ol days and really missed his friend.  She later told me that he had contacted his old friend for New Years.  They talked about their lives and how they missed each other.

I think that we all experience similar situations that often, we do not recall why we don't talk to certain people anymore and why the friendship went sour.  I also think that too often we hold unnecessary grudges.  Are these old relationships really having any impact on our current lives?  Maybe not, but I do think that we may carry a little excess baggage from past relationships that we need to let go of.  Why not shoot them a message and let them know you were thinking of them?  There is no need to do this with every relationship you've had with friends that may not have worked out, but there were those few gems for sure.

Life is too short to hold grudges, let things go and move on in the way that works best for you.

It's a New Year

Hello Friends! The past year has been quite a journey and quite wonderful. Had some amazing trips and adventures including my first cruise, a trip to California, bungee jumping and taking in some beautiful sights. I earned my Masters, saw my niece get christened and said goodbye to my home of 26 years to start a new life in a new state with my husband. The past few months have been hard adjusting to this new life (thank God Miles jumped in my car), but despite all the tears I know at the end of the day this adventure is a stepping stone to future happiness.

So with a new year comes new memories...as well as 'resolutions. No matter what my resolution has been in the past they never seem to last more than the first week of the new year...but this year I'm going to try really hard. I came up with a short list of resolutions and hung them up in the kitchen. I figure maybe if I see them everyday it'll give me more motivation. One of these resolutions is to write something at least once a week. I would say every day, but let's get real, life tends to get in the way and I know writing something every day probably isn't going to happen. In any case this is the reason to get this blog up and running...to motivate me to write more! I find that I get lost in my writing and it's something that I truly enjoy doing.

Wherever you are in your life right now, think about the good fortunes you have in your life and let's cheers to the new year!

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